When A Japanese Person Seems To Say "No"

Do evasive and mealy-mouthed responses cause2) It's difficult for me to say in English.
you irritation? Then you had better scratch Japan3) We need time to think about it.
from your business plans.One aspect of dealing4) Is that so?
with Japanese, which can totally frustrate a5) We will need a few months to consider your
newcomer (and a veteran like me!) to thisplan.
island-nation, is the lack of straightforwardness in6) Can we continue this discussion in the future?I
communication. Evasiveness is a national past timecan hear many of you ready to pounce on me
here and that can infuriate an impatient foreignnow. Well, Mr. Posner, each of these sentences
businessman wanting results in a New Yorkquestions gives a ray of hope. Why do you
minute.If you can't tame your desire for specificinterpret their respective meanings as a sign that
responses and quick results, then I already knowmatters are falling apart or have even failed?
the exact outcome of your business trip evenAren't you being negative and pessimistic?No,
before you arrive at Narita Airport. You will failexperience has been my teacher. Twenty-five
and you may never know why.Despite theyears of dealing in business in Japan - many as a
maddening "silent treatment" style of thelanguage trainer at large Japanese concerns -
Japanese people, I want to reassure you that youhave given me a keen sense for the meaning of
can penetrate the Japanese psyche and know theEnglish words as spoken by a Japanese. I could
truth behind a plastic smile in due time.For thosewrite a concise dictionary of Japanese English, if I
of you tapping your collective feet and wanting towas idle.I have one final note of caution. It is
cut to the chase before you bite every fingernailoften said that our Maker gave us two ears and
to the elbow, may I offer some cautionaryone mouth so that we could listen twice as much
advice:An outright "No" from your Japaneseas we speak. Japanese in business circles have
counterpart is as rare as a planetary realignment.mastered that art, plus alpha.Bite your tongue and
The more you push for decisiveness andlet the Japanese counterpart take a little of the
definitiveness in the initial stages of negotiation,initiative. They will respect you more and most
the more ambiguous will be the response.Thelikely find a place in their business budget for your
following words spoken by a Japanese to theproduct, service or proposal...eventually.Richard
uninitiated foreigner can usually be interpreted asPosner is an author, trader, English-language trainer
meaning "No," or "It is no good," or "It is tooat major Japanese corporations, and an internet
expensive," or "You are embarrassing me," orentrepreneur. He has resided in Japan for 25
"Why are you in such a rush?" and a host ofyears and has a depth of experience dealing with
other rejection statements or questions whichthe Japanese in business and pleasure.
remain unspoken:1) That's so difficult.